Anyone Else
Feel Like I Do?


And Other Questions
Women Ask Following
an Abortion




Pam Koerbel








  1        How Did This Ever Happen to me?
  2        Does Anyone Else Feel Like I Do?
  3        Is It Okay to Cry?

  4        Why Can't I Forget?.

  5        Whom Can I Talk To?

  6        Does God Still Love Me?

  7        Will God Forgive Me?

  8        How Do I Cope With This Feeling of Emptiness?

  9        Why Is Sex Difficult Now?

10        Why Do I Feel so Worthless?

11        I Have a Right to Be Angry, Don't I?

12        Must I Forgive Others?

13        Will I Be Punished for My Abortion?

14        Where Is My Baby Now?

15        Should I Tell My Baby Good-bye?

16        Will I Ever Be Able to Forgive Myself?

17        Should I Tell Others About My Abortion?

18        How Do I Tell Those I Love?

19        How Can I Help My Husband Deal With My Abortion?

20        How Will My Abortion Affect My Other Children
                and Their Relationship to Me?

21        Will I Ever Be Healed?.
22        How Can I Help Others Avoid the Same Mistake?



Author's Note



Quotes appear frequently throughout this book with a woman's first name, or first and last names, or anonymously.  These quotes are from women who have written voluntarily to share what is on their hearts.  Many times women have phrased a thought in such a way it reached out and touched me and I trust will touch you.  I believe you will find comfort in the words of another who shares or has shared the same query, pain, or solution.  The women quoted on these pages speak for the hundreds of thousands, perhaps millions, who remain silent.  As you read their words, remember that each woman quoted is one of us.  Often she has found a method of dealing with her grief, living with her loss, and facing her future with confidence and hope.  She may still have problems, but she actively seeks solutions.  She expects to find answers.  You should expect to find them too!






Although space limitations prohibit acknowledging every person by name who supported and encouraged me in this work, I would be remiss not the mention to following:  my husband, Leigh, for his sacrificial love and understanding support of my post-abortion work; my chil­dren, Michael, Mark, Sarah, and Rebekah, who teach me daily the preciousness of life and who provide joys and challenges beyond measure; the editor of the Doubleday edition, Theresa D’Orsogna, for believing in the need for this book; Cheryl Smith for taking time from her busy schedule to critique the original manuscript; the hundreds of women who have opened their hearts to me; and those women who have permitted me to quote their words in order to help others.  To each of you ¾ thank you!







This book is dedicated to my parents,
Carl and Anne Hoffman, who by their example
have taught me the meaning of
love and forgiveness.



 You've had an abortion. You thought it would solve your problem.  You were wrong.  Instead, a whole new set of problems has emerged.

            The gnawing guilt, grief, and anxiety won't go away.  You ask yourself, "Why, oh why, did I ever do it?"  Questions plague your mind as you mull over your abortion.  Round and round you go in a self-inflicted, silent hell.  Is there any way out?

YES!  Others have struggled with the realization that abortion is not the "easy way out" of an untimely pregnancy.  Some of them have found answers to their emotional trauma. 

            My first book, Abortion's Second Victim, chronicles my personal experience with abortion; delves into the medical, legal, and theological facts surrounding abortion; and in­cludes practical steps to take in dealing with the basic emotions that get out of kilter follow­ing an abortion ¾ emotions such as anger, grief, depression, and shame. 

            Following publication of Abortion's Second Victim in 1986, hundreds of women from across America and from some foreign countries wrote or telephoned me.  They wrote, often times pouring out their hearts in long, long letters.  For the first time they were able to share their thoughts with someone else.  I read those letters and cried or rejoiced.  Along with their personal stories, they often asked questions ¾ specific questions for which they sought answers.  Those letters led to the writing of the book you now hold in your hands.  Originally published in 1990, Does Anyone Else Feel Like I Do?, also encouraged many post-abortion women to write to me.  The women who communicated with me wanted help and were will-ing to apply the answers they found to their lives.  Many of them have gone on to share those answers with others who hurt.  However, countless women still struggle with specific ques-tions related to their abortions. 

            This revised edition of Does Anyone Else Feel Like I Do? offers insights to help you put your abortion experience into perspective.  Some of my words may hit hard.  You may find old wounds aching or new ones exposed.  Take heart; wounds usually hurt before they heal.

            Something new has been added to this edition.  At the end of each chapter I’ve in­cluded a page for you to write down your own thoughts and goals with respect to resolving your post-abortion trauma.  Now the question is ¾ are you willing to do what is necessary to put your past behind you and get on with your life?

                                                                                                                        Pam Koerbel

Distributed by
Post Abortion Ministries (PAM)â

Some of the names of persons referred to in this book have been changed to ensure their privacy.


For purposes of continuity, throughout this book the word “he” is used to refer to the aborted baby.


Unless otherwise noted, Scripture quotations are from the New American Standard Bible, copyright ã The Lockman Foundation 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977.  Used by permission.  Other quotations are from the Holy Bible, New International Version (NIV), copyright ã 1973, 1978, 1984, Interna­tional Bible Society, used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers; the King James Version (KJV); and the Good News Version.


 Copyright ã 1990-2017 P J Koerbel  ·  All rights reserved




The contents of this book are protected by copyright law.  No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, record­ing, or otherwise, without prior written permission from the author.


Printed in the United States of America


Printing History:

Originally Published by Doubleday, New York, New York, trade paper, 1990.

First Post Abortion Ministries (P×A×M) edition, revised, July 1996.

Second Post Abortion Ministries (P×A×M) edition, January 1999.

Third edition, May 2008
Fourth edition January 2017.





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